Single on Valentines Day—What's a Single Mom to Do?

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So, it's Valentine's Day, and you're single. Tell you what—this year, you're not allowed to feel down.  Who says Valentine's Day, the day of Love, is for lovers only? Here are a few things you can do to give yourself a happy valentine.

1. Celebrate Love with your kids. If you really want to go out on a date, have one—with your kids. Wear red, go to the candy store, go somewhere fun where you've never taken them before.
2. Celebrate Love with your family. Go out with your extended family to dinner or host one at your place.
3. Celebrate Love with your girlfriends. Get your hair done, get a mani-pedi, and go on a girl's night out with your single friends. No man-bashing, though—that's no fun. ;)
4. Celebrate your love for yourself. Take yourself out on a date! Think of what makes you feel good, and and do it:
• Go to the movies or pick one out on Netflix.
• Go to the park.
• Go to the zoo.
• Paint
• Write
• Soak in the tub with a luxurious bubble bath after the kids are in bed.
• Flirt with someone.
• Book an appointment at the spa.
5. Practice saying So What to the inner voice that makes you feel bad. "She has a date, and you don't." So what? "She got roses sent to her desk from someone!" So what? "It's Valentine's Day, and you're single." So. What. You get the picture. No matter what everyone around you is doing today or who or how many boyfriends they have in their lives, it doesn't take away from who you are, or who you are becoming—unless you allow it. 

So which ones are you doing? I'm doing items 1 and 4, and I'm actually really excited. How can I not look forward to all this fun and pampering? :)

At the end of the day, single or not, the first person who should be giving you love is you. So do it. Care for yourself, make yourself feel good and loved, acknowledge your strengths, celebrate your successes as a mom who does it all herself—you deserve it. You really, really do.

Happy Early Valentine, Mama, and here's to you.

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